When It’s Time To Let It Go

Some of us think holding on makes us strong, but sometimes it is letting go.
—Hermann Hesse

For some, letting go is as easy as saying “oh forget it.”  In that moment, they’ve let go. For others, like me, letting go is more difficult.  Something I have been battling with is letting go of certain people/relationships. Because I know that as soon as I let go, I will no longer turn back or have room for it in my heart. And that whatever it is I’ve been holding to and fighting for, will disappear into thin air as if it never was. I know that as soon as I let go, it ends there. And then we soon become strangers to each other and awkwardly smile as we pass each other.

Letting go is hard. Very hard. But there is a time when you can no longer lie to yourself.

I’ve always been the kind of person that reaches out to another person first or always turns the other cheek. I’ve always been the one to make amends or forget about past disappointments.  I’ve always been the nice one. And because of it, people have taken advantage.

Friendships go both ways. And if one decides to check out without letting the other person know, then it somehow will come to an end.

And that’s okay. Letting go is hard, but it’s doable. Letting go hurts, but it’s for the best. If you are going through something similar, take a deep breath, exhale, and let go…

 Letting go means to come to the realization that some people are a part of your history, but not a part of your destiny.
—Steve Maraboli

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