Work-at-Home-Moms: When It’s Time To Put The Kids In Daycare

 For the past year, since his birth, I’ve been working from home full-time  with an infant–and it was the hardest thing ever. But… it was worth it! Watching him grow and never missing a moment of his first year was priceless. Now, my oldest has been going to preschool part-time for a while,  so it is also good to be able to spend some days with him at home as well. I am grateful to be a Work-at-Home-Mom.
Working during nap time was never consistent, and working after the kids went to bed was becoming too overwhelming. Sleeping after midnight every night was my life. What was supposed to be “the best of both worlds” became a nightmare. I always complained because of how exhausting the situation was, playing the supermom role and all. I knew it was temporary. We’d agreed we’d  keep him at home the first year, but when he was six months, it was already starting to feel almost impossible. but still,  I tried to hold on a little longer.
See, people have this misconception  that working from home is all peaches and roses. That’s a thing, right? Peaches and roses? I can’t think straight right now (currently tucked in bed writing this). Anyway,  as I was saying,  by working from home, I don’t  mean selling oils or it works! (no offense), but I am referring to work-at-home-moms with a full-time  salary position.
I often hear: “You’re so lucky. I wish I could have your job so I could bring in some income and be with my kids.”
Uh…yeah….
I always tell them to be prepared to do double the work. Because that is the reality. WORK-AT-HOME-MOMS  wear both hats. We’re home with the kids and trying to work at the same time, while keeping up with cooking and household chores while trying not to feel guilty about not devoting enough time to play peek-a-boo.. Let me add how messy the house gets! So it is not as “golden” as people think.
It is; however, a good option if you have a very flexible job where you can set your own hours and work whenever, wherever. Even better if you’re able to have some help during the day for your own sanity.
Every now and then, time away  from the kids can make you a better mother and a much better employee.
All in all, working from home has been a blessing for my family. I do admit that I have a love it and hate it relationship with my job. But at the end of the day, it’s what’s best for my family and our current stage of life.
So in order to continue  to make it work, something had to change after my latest breakdown. And I feel so great about this decision.  Sort of like I can breathe again– major weight lifted off my shoulders.
So now, this mama right here  gets a break three days a week to work during normal business hours of the day and sleep when everyone sleeps because I will no longer have to be a night owl who works past midnight .
Amen to that. 

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JJ’s First Birthday

I look back on the first year and think about how fast it went. I look back on the day I gave birth to him and how scary it was, with my husband waiting outside of the O.R. for 30 minutes while I was having an emergency c-section– not knowing if baby and I were okay.  I think back on the moment I looked into his eyes for the very first time. Oh, precious moments! Since I work from home, we made the decision that he would stay home with me that first year. It was one of the most […]

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You’re So Lucky! You Have It All Figured Out.

 Although I am currently working from home full-time /WAHM, (I’m an online writing instructor for a local university) I don’t exactly love it  and at times, it can feel very frustrating, exhausting, and stressful– and on those days, I’m just about over working from home . So, I even went to great lengths and had job interviews with a possible career change. But then this morning  I had to make an early drive into the city and as I sat there in major traffic near downtown, I thought, “there’s no way I’m getting back out there for any 8-5 type of […]

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How In The World Am I a Stay-At-Home Mom With a Full Time Job?

Calling all my working mamas! How in the world do you do it? Especially if you have a 9-5 job. I work from home and thought it would be just fine with an infant and toddler. Hah. Forgive me for underestimating how much work it would be. It is really hard. At least I don’t have a job that requires me to clock in and out and sit at a desk for certain hours. Don’t get me wrong, I still have to work 40+ a week, but I get to make my own schedule. If it was not for the flexibility, I […]

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Be the Friend You Wish You Had!

Be the friend you wish you had and never take the ones you have for granted. This past week, I had the pleasure to reunite with a long time friend of mine. She came to visit us from Texas along with her husband, and little baby girl of two months. Best friends reunite! We finally got to hold each other’s babies who are only 7 weeks apart! I only wish she lived closer. It was great to just to all be together and talk, laugh etc. We talked about how things happen in life in interesting ways. For my loyal readers, you’ve read […]

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It’s okay to say “yes” when someone offers to help you.

It really is. But… Why can’t I do it? Say “yes.” For some reason, every time a nice person offers to help me when out grocery shopping or running errands, my answer is always, “No, I’m okay. Thank you.” It is as if I have this, almighty- all-powerful-mom-I got this- attitude. What is it about people having a difficulty to accept help? Does accepting help from people show weakness? I don’t know about you, but I can only speak for myself, but every single time I go grocery shopping with my children, someone always offers to help me. And every single time, I […]

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Dealing With Mommy Guilt & Comparisons

I never knew how competitive moms could be until I became one myself. From feeding choices, to daycare, career choices, and sleeping methods, moms constantly compare their child or parenting choices to others.  Most do it unintentionally and are probably unaware that they’re comparing. But still, it happens often. The moment will come when a mother has to make one of the biggest decisions in motherhood-one that has moms of today divided into two categories: being a stay-at-home-mom or a working mom. Some are able to do both (more power to you!), but most moms are not able to. But with […]

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The Hassle With Making Mom Friends

Oh crap. I only have one mom friend. Several weeks ago, I was sitting simply reflecting on my life and the friends I’ve had throughout the years and I started to think, “Oh wow. What happened to so and so…? Oh crap. I only have one mom friend. I think. Or maybe two at the most.” Which would be fine if they lived in the same state as me. So I started to realize that some people just move on, and others have a hard time moving on or letting go. Which one am I? And I the kind to hold on […]

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