Be the Friend You Wish You Had!

Be the friend you wish you had and never take the ones you have for granted.

This past week, I had the pleasure to reunite with a long time friend of mine. She came to visit us from Texas along with her husband, and little baby girl of two months. Best friends reunite! We finally got to hold each other’s babies who are only 7 weeks apart! I only wish she lived closer.

It was great to just to all be together and talk, laugh etc. We talked about how things happen in life in interesting ways. For my loyal readers, you’ve read by now on my blog how I discussed friendships and the more difficult it becomes to have or keep friends around once married or once you have children. It is hard to understand why or how certain friendships simply do not last all the way into adulthood, but it happens more than often.

This friend of mine here, I’ve known her since high school. The funny thing is that I did not like her much when I first met her. We were introduced by my then best friend.  Long story short,  From high school, through college, marriage, and now motherhood, we’ve been there for each other. Today, we are both wives, mothers, and women of faith.

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It is not about how many friends one has, but more so about the value of those friendships.

I thank God for the friends he’s blessed me with. My prayer is that God keeps us in each other’s lives for as long as possible! Sometimes we don’t realize the value of certain friendships until it is too late. I can attest to that personally.

As we discussed different topics during her visit, we both realized that we had lost many friends over the years, but that we were okay with it. If you are personally struggling with being a new mom without any “mom friends”, know that this is common. Many of us are going through the same thing, myself included. My advice is to just be patient. Sometimes we make friends in the most unexpected encounters.  So I encourage you all to be the friend you wish you had and never take the ones you have for granted.

What is your biggest struggle/concern in regards to adult friendships? Share your thoughts!

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