It can be very difficult for some women to get back in shape after baby. We all have different body types, so for some it may happen in a month and others it may take a year or even longer.
I’m still not cleared to exercise, so today I started with some light stretching, as my muscles were feeling tight. My baby slept peacefully in the solly wrap against mommy’s chest.
My advice to women postpartum is, I believe that when you are ready, take your time and do the exercises that feel right to you and your body. There are many ways to get back in shape, but wait until your body is ready and do not feel pressured by anyone to lose the weight so quickly.
It is so easy for people to talk and say, “Wow, you’ve gained so much weight.” or “You look like a mom now.” (What does that even mean?!?!)
….But don’t let comments like that get to you. Many people literally have no filter, and they don’t realize how much those words can affect a woman who is already dealing with a newborn and now the stress of trying to look like “herself” again.
I struggled with this after my first baby. The pressure to look myself again. I’d always been the “slender type” and now that I was a bit thicker, I was very uncomfortable and not confident in myself anymore. No matter how many times my husband told me I was beautiful.
It all starts with you. You have to love yourself. You have to love the new you. And you cannot let anyone else define you.
This time around with my second child, now 4 weeks postpartum, I am back to my pre-pregnancy weight or maybe even smaller due to exclusively breastfeeding since day 1. With my first I did not breastfeed exclusively until he was 6 weeks old so the weight took longer to come off.
Anyway, I do feel a lot stronger, lighter, and confident now. And even if I had not lost the weight so quickly, I told myself that this time around, I would not let those words get to me.
“Be careful now with that weight. If you wait too long, you may not be able to lose it anymore.”
Who says stuff like that?
You’ll be surprised. Some people do not consider the feelings of others. As if you are purposely trying to get fat. People do not realize the struggles and pressure, we, women, face concerning our body image.
It is easy to compare your progress to someone else’s and start to envy, but when you find yourself doing that, stop, breathe, and accept the way you are.
With time, hard work, and dedication, you can get back to the body you once had. But for now, enjoy the journey of motherhood–curves and all.