Some friends aren’t good at handling the success of others.

Accept this: some people just move on.

Most of my “friends” are no longer a part of my life since I got married and moved away almost two years ago.  To add to the list, I now have a newborn!

Sometimes it’s hard to accept our new circumstances. I ask myself if I’ve done something wrong or is it because I moved to a different state, but I realized that I’ve done everything right.

I’m at a good place in life and I thank God for it.  Some friends aren’t good at handling the success of others, so they walk away feeling that there is no point in keeping the friendship. There may be other reasons, I don’t know. I’m just speaking my mind as I always do, but those were my thoughts. Five years ago, I would’ve never guessed that my group of friends would have taken such a roller coaster ride and that I’d be left with only a couple of faithful loyal friends. Sometimes you just don’t have anything in common anymore,  so the friendship just vanishes little by little.

But that’s the beauty of life. The hidden beauty of friendship.

You never know what’s ahead. I’m able to count my true friends with one hand with a smile on my face. I used to not be able to do that, but today, I can.

I always share my personal experience because I know that there’s always somebody out there going through the same thing I’m going through. Maybe not right now, but at one point, we all go through some of the same challenges.  It may not apply to you today, but it might tomorrow.

Learn how to accept that you may not understand everything people do, but you should understand what’s good for you. Like they say, true friends are hard to find so hold on to the ones you still have and don’t feel as if you cannot make new ones. There is always room for new friends who share the same values as you do and who are on the same level as you. That way, you won’t need to worry so much about competition.  As I grow older, I’m learning truly what friendship is and I realize that some friends were never really friends to begin with.

A true friend, no matter what, knows and understands what is important to you and would stick by you through those significant moments in your life. A true friend also knows when to give you your space, but still be around at the same time. The true friend knows how to be there for you even when you don’t think you need them there. Ah friendship…how I’ve learned so much about you!

My true friend.  My husband.
My true friend. My husband.

>When we honestly ask ourselves which person in our lives means the most to us, we often find that it is those who, instead of giving advice, solutions, or cures, have chosen rather to share our pain and touch our wounds with a warm and tender hand.- Henri Nouwen

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The Big Apple Trip I Never Wrote About

So,  I never had the chance to blog about my experience in NYC last year. I’ve always been fascinated with the city life since I was born in Paris and grew up there for some time, so I’ve always wanted to visit NYC. I never really had the chance before until last year. It was my graduation from grad school and my birthday weekend all at once. I told my husband that all I wanted was to go to New York city for that weekend since we would be in Wilkes-Barre/Scranton, PA, two hours from NYC ( I got my CW […]

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Beauty in Small Things

It’s easy to take little things for granted and to forget to see beauty in small things, such as flowers or tress. Take the time to look around you every now and then to appreciate what’s around you. Phoenix is a beautiful city, and I’m so happy that the weather is finally cooling off. Fall, here we come!

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What do you write about in your journal?

Today is such a beautiful day here in the valley. I took my kindle and my journal for a trip in my backyard. There was a time in my life when I couldn’t go a day without writing in my journal. Oh, how times have changed. I’m challenging myself to write in my journal daily. I’m referring to a real journal–not a word document. There is something about handwriting in a journal verses typing on a computer. It’s more personal in my opinion. What do you write about in your journal? For me, I write about whatever comes to mind. […]

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What happens when writing isn’t fun anymore?

For some time now, I have been feeling like writing fiction is a chore instead of my escape.  I used to be able to just sit for hours and enjoy writing. I used to look forward to writing fictional stories. Have I gotten lazy? Somewhere between finishing my Master’s in Creative Writing and trying to get published, I lost the bliss. I lost the desire to write fiction. Sure, I’ve had a lot going on the past few years and months (moving to a different state, getting married, grad school, new baby etc), but I don’t think it has anything […]

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In Awe of You

I’m in awe of you In awe of the indefinable beauty I see in you One that can never be compared One that can never fade away And one that continues to embellish In you I see myself clearly Because you give me a reason to live Living now has a meaning A meaning that words can’t define Simply because I’m in awe of you

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What makes a good writer?

Someone asked me, “What makes a good writer? ” Answers vary,  but in my opinion: Being a good writer is not about how many big words you use or how intelligent you may sound but it’s about creating a world for your readers. A world your readers can escape into. As a writer,  I try to make sure that I am that type of writer. I’m also a book nerd, so I love when other writers create that world for me! Happy Saturday!

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Arizona Sunsets

My favorite thing about AZ: Sunsets It may be hot 6 months out of the year, but it’s a beautiful state. The two pictures below were taken from my backyard. No filter. Simply flawless. 

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