End Of the Year Stress 

Why is it that the end of the year always comes  with its own problems?

This is a stressful and drepressing time of the year for many,  and it has sadly personally affected me as well.

I’ve heard many bad news from loved ones this month: car accidents, hospitalization, sickness, death, incarceration…you name it!

How can you stay happy when everything else around you seems to fall apart? How can you not be angry or frustrated when you feel like you should be?

Let it go.

When you let go, God has a way of stepping in and doing it right and doing it well.The more you try to change the situation,  the harder it gets. Just stand on what you believe in and trust that God has everything under control.

Take care of yourself  and your loved ones during this tough time of the year.

Try to do something to get your mind off your worries. Take a walk. Exercise.  Read. Laugh. Dance. Pray for someone else.

Hug those you love and hold them tight just little bit longer. Cherish every moment and forgive easily.

Most importantly,  pray and stay calm.

Friday Motivation: He Called You To Be You

 

 

Psalm 20:4 “May he give you the desire of your heart and make all your plans succeed.”

Opportunities are great but not all of them are for you. Just because an opportunity presents itself to you, it doesn’t mean that you should jump right at it. Stick to your goals. Keep working towards those dreams and do not be easily persuaded by the” easy way out”.  Try not to let anything sway your away from your calling.

Remember why God chose you.

He called you to be  you. If everyone tried to do the same things in life, this world wouldn’t make any sense.  If you’re an artist, be that artist. If you’re a businessman, be one heck of a business man/woman! The point is, keep doing what you are passionate about or what you were called to be with all your heart. Give it 100%. Try not to live a life that others want you to live. Try not to please others by doing what they think you should be doing.

I am me. The one and only Debz Mak. I am unique. I am different. No one else in the world can do what I do the way that I do it because God gave me a unique way of doing it. If I don’t do what He called me to do, then who will do it for me? No one.  So, why try to live a life that was not intended for me?

Life will pass you by.

So what are you waiting for? Search deep inside your heart those dreams and desires that God placed in there and go after them. Even if people think you’re too much of a dreamer. I’ve always been called weird or a dreamer. And honestly, that has never bothered me. I like being different. I like being me. I love the way God made me. And you should too. You should love the way God created you.

Psalm 139:14 “I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well.”

If there’s something you should have accomplished long ago that you still have not done, now is the time to get started. Don’t put it off any longer. Whether it’s a change of career, going back to school, starting a business, or whatever it is, pray for direction from God and lean on Him to guide you.

We spend so much time looking back on our lives thinking what shoulda coulda woulda, that we never actually just go for it and DO IT!

Psalm 37:4-5 “Take delight in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart.”

Be blessed.

 

How In The World Am I a Stay-At-Home Mom With a Full Time Job?

Calling all my working mamas!

How in the world do you do it? Especially if you have a 9-5 job. I work from home and thought it would be just fine with an infant and toddler. Hah. Forgive me for underestimating how much work it would be. It is really hard. At least I don’t have a job that requires me to clock in and out and sit at a desk for certain hours. Don’t get me wrong, I still have to work 40+ a week, but I get to make my own schedule. If it was not for the flexibility, I would not be able to work from home. Because quite frankly, I basically have an evening shift work-from-home job.

Many people have a misconception about what it is like to work from home with kids.

They think it’s all paradise. OK, yes I get to work in my pjs and yoga pants on most days, but, as I said before on my Instagram, most of the time I get my work done when the kids go to bed at night. It is impossible for me to do anything during the day, but it is still possible to work from home if you do not mind working in the evenings. My days are spent taking care of my little guy (on the days older brother is at school) and doing occasional chores. If I need to meet up with friends or colleagues for coffee, he tags along.

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So… how in the world am I a stay-at-home mom with a full time job?

Recently though, my husband and I have made an arrangement for me to work 5pm to about 9ish. I lock myself in my office to work and he takes care of the kids. Some days I don’t actually start until closer to 8pm and work until midnight or 1am.  I usually take a break to help with the kids’ nighttime routine.  Some days I have more work. Some days I hardly have any when I’m all caught up. What I don’t like about that schedule is that I am missing out on quality time with him and the kids. So I try to make sure that I have absolutely  no work to do on the weekends so I can spend  time with hubby. My toddler goes to preschool three days a week, so at least that gives me some quiet time to respond to emails or do quick chores while the baby naps.

The thing is, I underestimated how much work baby#2 would be. Sounds wrong but it is so true. My first was very quiet. Yes, he cried when hungry or sleepy, but for the most part, he was very easy going and could entertain himself easily. Now baby #2 is very different. He does not like to be left alone and always wants me around. He’ll play for maybe ten minutes on his own, but that’s it. So, he is a full time job itself. Thus the reason why I can not do a single thing until hubby gets home.

I never used to be a night owl. But now I am mostly productive in the evening. I suppose we are testing the waters, but I would be lying to you if I said it was easy.

Sometimes, we, mothers, have the pressure to keep it all together and make sure that everything is perfect. We feel the need to be the perfect wife and the perfect mother. If not, then we are failing. We easily compare ourselves to so and so who seems to have it all together. Little do we know that so and so is also struggling with the same challenges.

Everything will not always be perfect, and that’s okay.

Some nights the dishes will remain in the sink, and the floors won’t be shiny. Some days you’ll have to order take out and take a shower late at night. That is the reality of it. As long as you are doing your best, mama, then do not give in to the pressure of having to be perfect all the time.

Some of you wonder how in the world do I still find time to write and blog? I suppose this is my escape. Blogging keeps me sane.  It gives me a place to escape to for just a little while.

It is not by my own strength that I am able to do this. God is my strength. When I do not read my devotional/Bible or spend some time in His presence, I definitely feel a sense of loss and weakness. But as soon as I put some worship music on or meditate on His promises, I instantly feel renewed. Strengthened. Awaken. So I have to keep reminding myself that if I keep trying to do everything on my own, eventually I will continue to get weaker. One of my favorite verses in Proverbs 3:5 reads,

Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. In all  your ways acknowledge him, and He shall direct your path.

So although I may not understand how I will be able to overcome this challenge, God does. And I will continue to trust in the Lord with all my heart for strength and courage.

This post was also published on Huffington Post.

It All Starts with Faith

Faith is to believe what you do not see; the reward of this faith is to see what you believe. Saint Augustine

It’s funny that I read about faith and prayer in my devotional this morning. It’s like God knew exactly what I needed to hear/read.

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I like to believe that I’m a woman of faith. I’m usually a very positive person full of faith and hope, but I reached a point where my ability to have faith in certain things has become questionable.

It all starts with faith. How can one pray for something they don’t even believe in? You simply can’t.  For as long as I continue to lack faith in whatever it is that I’m hoping for, my prayer is worthless. Because it all starts with my faith. That’s the hard part. Believing in something that you can’t see–especially when you’ve been disappointed before.
If more than ever, this should be the time to hope more, and enlarge my faith. Because prayer changes things.

So prayer does make a difference—a life-changing and earth-rattling difference.- Lysa TerKeurst

Allow your faith to be so bold that fear and doubt have no room in your heart.