I am Writing An Entire Novel in One Month.

It has been a very long time since I got excited about writing fiction. For a while it became like such a chore and just the thought of it made me anxious. I have had no desire  to write for more than a year now.

Then I started playing with the idea of doing National Novel Writing Month.

Am I crazy?

I had not even written a single word in forever and now I’m signing up to write an entire novel in one month?

Yes, clearly I’m nuts. But I had this story tugging at my heart, my fingers were aching to type and tell the story. So I decided, why not? I have a peaceful corner in my house that I created, dedicated for writing and reading. Might as well put it to use.

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I have had this hate and love relationship with writing the past year. I have been doubting myself and my talent, thinking that maybe I’m just not cut out to be a real “writer.” Maybe people just don’t want to tell me the truth, you know? But every time I doubt myself, someone somehow ends up encouraging me or praising me for something I wrote that they recently read.

Okay. Maybe I’m not so bad after all. I decided to go for it.

Write, Deb. You were born to tell stories!

Now that it is November 4th, how am I really doing with #nanowrimo?  It started off a bit rocky. Matter of fact, I did not start writing until day three (yesterday). I finally sat down to WRITE, and boy, did I write. It was as if all I needed was to sit down and just write. Words, characters, and ideas just came flying out. I couldn’t stop. I was excited and thinking non stop about the book and the characters. I still am.

I am writing an entire novel in one month.

no more excuses.

but really, my excuse was that I’ve been too busy reading instead. And at first, I started with a story that just wasn’t it. It felt like I was forcing it. It wasn’t the story I should write.

my heart wanted to tell a different story.

so here I am, writing.

let’s hit those 3k words. Daily.

 

 

End Of the Year Stress 

Why is it that the end of the year always comes  with its own problems?

This is a stressful and drepressing time of the year for many,  and it has sadly personally affected me as well.

I’ve heard many bad news from loved ones this month: car accidents, hospitalization, sickness, death, incarceration…you name it!

How can you stay happy when everything else around you seems to fall apart? How can you not be angry or frustrated when you feel like you should be?

Let it go.

When you let go, God has a way of stepping in and doing it right and doing it well.The more you try to change the situation,  the harder it gets. Just stand on what you believe in and trust that God has everything under control.

Take care of yourself  and your loved ones during this tough time of the year.

Try to do something to get your mind off your worries. Take a walk. Exercise.  Read. Laugh. Dance. Pray for someone else.

Hug those you love and hold them tight just little bit longer. Cherish every moment and forgive easily.

Most importantly,  pray and stay calm.

Friday Motivation: He Called You To Be You

 

 

Psalm 20:4 “May he give you the desire of your heart and make all your plans succeed.”

Opportunities are great but not all of them are for you. Just because an opportunity presents itself to you, it doesn’t mean that you should jump right at it. Stick to your goals. Keep working towards those dreams and do not be easily persuaded by the” easy way out”.  Try not to let anything sway your away from your calling.

Remember why God chose you.

He called you to be  you. If everyone tried to do the same things in life, this world wouldn’t make any sense.  If you’re an artist, be that artist. If you’re a businessman, be one heck of a business man/woman! The point is, keep doing what you are passionate about or what you were called to be with all your heart. Give it 100%. Try not to live a life that others want you to live. Try not to please others by doing what they think you should be doing.

I am me. The one and only Debz Mak. I am unique. I am different. No one else in the world can do what I do the way that I do it because God gave me a unique way of doing it. If I don’t do what He called me to do, then who will do it for me? No one.  So, why try to live a life that was not intended for me?

Life will pass you by.

So what are you waiting for? Search deep inside your heart those dreams and desires that God placed in there and go after them. Even if people think you’re too much of a dreamer. I’ve always been called weird or a dreamer. And honestly, that has never bothered me. I like being different. I like being me. I love the way God made me. And you should too. You should love the way God created you.

Psalm 139:14 “I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well.”

If there’s something you should have accomplished long ago that you still have not done, now is the time to get started. Don’t put it off any longer. Whether it’s a change of career, going back to school, starting a business, or whatever it is, pray for direction from God and lean on Him to guide you.

We spend so much time looking back on our lives thinking what shoulda coulda woulda, that we never actually just go for it and DO IT!

Psalm 37:4-5 “Take delight in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart.”

Be blessed.

 

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You Make Motherhood Look So Easy!

Is motherhood as scary as it sounds?

For the past couple of weeks, since giving birth to my second baby, I’ve gotten comments such as, “You Make Motherhood Look So Easy!”

My first thought was, “What the heck does that even mean?”

I received this comment from a mom and from a friend who doesn’t have children yet.

I was so confused, so I asked my husband if I should be offended or flattered.Then I decided to ask for clarification from one of the persons who told me this—the one without children yet.  She further explained that as someone without kids yet, I made motherhood look like it wasn’t so bad and as scary as it sounds. I made it look easy. Maybe she could do it too after all. You know? Be a young mom and have a life too.

Then it hit me. Many women simply do not have kids yet because they are afraid of:

1) losing their freedom. 2) losing themselves along the way. 3) not having a life.

Often times, without realizing it, moms do scare women who don’t have any kids yet. All they hear when we talk about our children is all the scary stories about breastfeeding and crying babies or how toddlers will make you want to pull your hair out.

It is true that motherhood is not easy, but at the same time, it is the most rewarding journey any women can experience.  You will cry, laugh, possibly get depressed, but most importantly, your heart will explode—with love you never knew you could feel.

Spaces (1)Do I make motherhood look easy? No. I simply share my daily life as a mother and a writer.

Why should I give up my dream and passion for writing because I’m a mother?

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The key is, don’t lose yourself because you had a baby. Instead, let motherhood bring out the best in you and bring out new interests you never even knew existed.

For example, before motherhood, I did write, but it was mostly fiction. But now that I am a mother, I have developed new interests and topics in writing, and more opportunities within the writing realm has presented itself that I didn’t have before I became a mother. I made the decision to not use my children or motherhood as an excuse for not following my dream. I want to be an example for my children so that when they grow up, they too will follow their dreams and live a life with passion. No matter what. Is it easy? Absolutely not!

Some days I don’t write. Actually, not some, but more like several days go by without me even typing a single word. And that’s life—that’s motherhood.

So whatever field you’re in, don’t let motherhood scare you from being successful. If it’s painting, paint on. If it’s music, sing on. If it’s writing, write on.

Continue to grow as an artist and let the journey of motherhood be your inspiration. Embrace motherhood and its challenges and allow them to strengthen you, mamas!

 

 

Focus on the Positive. Pray for the Negative.

This morning, I had my quiet moment for about 5 1/2 minutes and then the baby cried. Oh yeah, the baby– since my last post, I went into labor a few days later and had my beautiful baby boy! I will soon be writing the birth story.

Going back to my quiet moment, during
that time, this came to me: it’s much easier to tell someone what he/she is doing wrong rather than to focus on the wonderful things he/she is doing right.  Focus on the positive. Pray for the negative. Appreciate more. Complain less. Uplift more.  Don’t tear down.
So as you continue with your day, I encourage you to keep that in mind.

 

Love ,
Debz

Stop “Waiting to Be Happy.”

True happiness is… to enjoy the present, without anxious dependence upon the future.

Today  I read about happiness as I did my morning devotion.

It’s interesting how most people in this world wait for that “special thing” that will supposedly make them happy. Some wait for years–for happiness that may not last. For some, it’s the perfect job, perfect marriage, a degree, a promotion, a baby and the list goes on..

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But that “special thing” may not truly make you happy. Sometimes we look for happiness in all the wrong places. Being happy starts within ourselves and with the thoughts we choose to entertain.

What we think about day and night becomes our focus, and ultimately  it will determine our happiness.

Most folks are as happy as they make up their minds to be.

Don’t wait for that “special thing” that may or may not ever happen. Choose to be happy today. Stop focusing so much on yourself and think about ways to help others–that ought to make you happy.

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My mother and I being “happy.”

Remember that the happiest people are not those getting more, but those giving more.

Your Dreams Will Not Be Handed To You

There are two kinds of dreamers in life:

Those who dream big, but sit on their dreams. They dream about their dreams. They are daily planning and mapping out their dreams, but that’s it.
They just dream.
That’s as far as they ever get.

Then you have those who dream big and act. Not only do they write down their dreams and plans, but they are daily chasing after their dreams. They’re out there making connections, taking classes, learning, working, and doing whatever it is that they must do to achieve.
They’re on it. Daily.

Your dreams will not be handed to you.

Which dreamer are you?

Create Opportunities For Yourself.

Life is not about waiting on opportunities that may come around someday. It’s about the opportunities that you create. Maybe creating an opportunity for someone else may result in a bigger opportunity for yourself. Stop looking at things for what they are now, and look at things for what they could be tomorrow.

That’s wasting your life!

So many people live their lives trying to impress others. Are you one of those?
Why waste your time and energy trying to impress people who do not even care about you?
Impress yourself first.
If you aren’t impress with yourself,  chances are no one else will be.
So go ahead. Believe in yourself.  Ignore those who don’t believe in you or your dreams.  Do it for yourself. Do it because you can’t see yourself doing anything else.

They’re your dreams, so stop chasing people, and start chasing your dreams!

Good night or good morning!

Write Your Life Away!

Before you close your eyes tonight, write whatever is on your mind. Write whatever you’re feeling. Let it all out and watch yourself feel relieved. That’s what writing does to me, it relieves me. Look at writing as your friend–one who always listens. And as you type your life away, always remember the gift of writing within you. Use it, don’t waste it!

Happy Writing!